Posts tagged: Relationships

Nov 05 2008

Greek love ?


by Zigfred Diaz

The air is filled with love as the world celebrates Valentines Day today. It is but rightful that we talk about this word "LOVE" this month. With this in mind, let us explore the meaning and the depth of the word "LOVE" itself. To fully understand it's meaning, we have to go to the source of love which is God himself as stated in the Bible.

The writing in the New Testament was written in the ancient Greek. If we only have one word for love in English, the ancient greeks have 5 different words for love. In the English language, to properly distinguish the meaning of a single word, the context of the sentence is considered in order to fully appreciate the meaining of the word. In contrast when using New Testament Greek or "koine Greek" the context is given minimal consideration since the word itself conveys the full meaning. As an illustration, in English when we say we love our dog, we love our country, we love our parents and we love our wife, we are obviously not referring to the same kind of love. However in Koine greek different words for the word love is used for different kinds of purposes.

The English language is undoubtedly the "univesal" of the world. However I believe the ancient Greeks did a better job in expressing the word love than the English does.

1.) Agape -Refers to a "pure" and "ideal" type of love. Often use for "the love of God" or "such love that is willing to sacrifice one's life for another person." Its derivative, "Agapo" is used to say "I love you".

2.) Eros - Is the word used for "passionate love", or "sensual desire and longing." Lovers are the ones that frequently refer to this term.

3.) Philia - Widely known as "brotherly love". Aristotle was the one who developed this concept of "virtuous love". This word is used to describe the kind of "love" felt for family, friends and the community.

4.) Storge - Is being used to describe natural affection. Children are said to feel this kind of love for their parents.

5.) Xenia - Refers to "hospitality" and is best described as a bond of friendship formed between a host and their guest who are previously strangers.

Now wouldn't you agree with me that the ancient Greeks did a far more better job of expressing the word "Love" than we do in the English ?

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Nov 05 2008

Compliments - A Very Strong Dating

by Ada Denis

Making a compliment can be a very powerful tool when dating women. Of naturally, too many compliments can also get you look unsafe and impoverished. There involves to be a good reasonable. So, what is the key? You need to make a compliment from a situation of office. If you can master this one form of communication then she will see you as a powerful person and continue to crave your care and approval.

For instance, a well placed compliment can set up her in a good set up of mind for taking you. The best compliment is on something she would have put a lot of time and attempt into. Something most guys would not even find out. Making this form of compliment will set you apart from the pack. And, put you in her good graces.

For case, say she has added highlights to her hair. Tell her how good it makes her look. You will want to do this sedately and with a playful attitude, be sure not to seem to needy or desperate. Make sure to say it like you mean it. If you don't sound sincere, the compliment will be supplied ineffectual and she will think it false.

With awful women you should try to head off compliments on their appears. While I'm sure she may apprise it, you can be sure every loser trying to get her attention is telling her the same thing. You on the other hand want to stand out. You want to be thought of as being different standing away from the pack. So when talking with a pretty women be witty and crazy. Make her laugh, then as she's laughing tell her how beautiful her smile is.

Look her right in the eyes and say "My you have such a pleasant smile!" Do not dwell on her smile or the compliment. Hit on talking about something else. But, think, only attempt this compliment after you've been witty and funny and you've made her smile. Also, know a bit about women's fashion. Is she wearing something that's ultra chic, is her jewelry really different. Find something about her that no other guy is going to acknowledge.

Don't compliment her each single time you look her, because you have nothing to say is not a time for a compliment. To put up the most power, compliments must be used meagerly and expected sincerely.

Nov 05 2008

A Guide To:using Online Dating Services Successfully

by Ferda Shinsky

In this postmodern era, approaches to finding dates have changed as technology has evolved, such that in these times of personal computers and the Internet, a good number of individuals look to online dating services for connecting them to prospective girl or boy friends. Using a dating website is not always the easy proposition it might seem at first to be. That is why we are presenting some suggestions as to find a good site and use it effectively.

To begin, you must find a site that you feel comfortable using. Not an easy task when there are so many such sites out there, but a doable one. You may want to patronize the most popular site, Match.com, but there are certainly many more to select from, including those targeting singles in specific population groups, such as African-Americans or Hispanics. And for those on a budget, be aware that some services will charge for their programs, others will not.

Secondly, after you have settled on a particular service, you want to make full use of the various resources offered. A recent development is the so-called \"dating simulator\" (or \"sim\") which helps the client get ready for the actual dating experience, enabling them to relax and be more comfortable in the real world situation. Many sims also offer helpful suggestions and tips.

When designing your profile, be honest. Post current pictures that highlight your best attributes. Try to give other members a general idea of your personality without being too specific. Remember, honesty is the best way to find a match that is perfect for you.

And once you have established your profile, be sure to tend to it regularly, polishing the tone and descriptiveness of it, switching out photos that have been up for awhile for fresher ones. You especially want to evolve your presentation if you are not getting as many inquiries, or as good, as you had hoped for.

Fifthly, as you browse prospective daters, keep your expectations reasonable. Certainly, you hope these folks have been as honest as you in their profiles. But you also need to consider with some care what you want in a dating friend before you enter what will seem like a candy store. You want to have a manageable number of prospects to approach, rather than a lengthy list and no idea as to where to start.

Come the day you find a member you want to approach, don't move too fast. Meeting face-to-face is not a good idea for a first time encounter. Better you should send them an email or chat with them in the dating site chatroom. If things go well, then you will want to graduate to talking on the phone. And, finally, when you decide to ask him or her out, make it to a very safe, public place. Slow and steady wins the race.

Today's online dating tools allow the dating person to access a variety of people who desire the same companionship and fun as do they. At first, you may get a little frustrated and wonder if a good match for you is possible. But, with perserverance, you can find the special someone with the help of the Internet.

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Nov 04 2008

Breaking Up

by Ada Denis

The start thing you should set is speak about what passed, to your finest friend or home member. Just let it all outside. The more you talk about what encountered, the better you'll look about it afterwards on. You still have individual that cares about you, your admirer or family member.

The following thing to do is to centre on other prospects of life. If you're in school, focus hard on your studies, and take exception yourself to the limit. Have a job' Try really set at your occupation, put in the extra time. The key thing to do is to reach something to be grand of. Once you've done this, you will end up look better about yourself. Maybe you've even leaved about the breakup, or the memory is just a very vivid one. And if you're still feeling like dirt, you might require to try something some other.

There adds up a time when life gets on. Possibly you're set to footstep outside of your particular cuticle of your previous relationship. Your heart is settled broken yes, but it's slowly healing itself. Ask a match of friends to go to a picture with you, hang up around the mall, and other cozy issues such as those.

And if you're intelligent, you can start out to look for other relationships. if you're not ready, then by all substance, keep with working hard at school or work, and going to friendly outcomes. But if you are, and you'll know when you are, try to go to nightclubs, parties, and meet other girls or guys. Ask around, have fun, and maybe you'll see yourself a date.

Things can get pretty wild in relationships, and sometimes the preventative process takes even years. The time is different for everybody. Just think of one thing, it occurs to us all, we all know how tough it feels to break up with someone. Another thing to think, is that if your relationship had it's ups and goes through, maybe you were meant to find a somebody better fit for you.

Try the help of a friend.

Allow it all come out, the anger, the sadness.

Try tough to succeed at work or school.

Starting doing something you'll be glorious of.

Take Part in favorable events with your buddies.

If you're willing, try to get somebody else.

Nov 04 2008

Q & A for Men’s Dating

by Stylelife Academy

Question: I'd like to talk to ladies that I'm attracted to but usually, I lose my nerve. How can I beat this feeling?

Answer: You're describing "Approach Anxiety," a psychological condition that begins after you see a woman you find attractive. You become panicky and tense and you cannot move.

You worry, "What will I say? What will she say? And what if she rejects me?" These negative thoughts become so monumentally overwhelming that your whole body battles against you talking to this gorgeous woman.

Know that this mental process occurs in all men. However, there are proven methods for beating this affliction. The best rule is to approach within three seconds before you can talk yourself out of it.

Question: Why are women usually asking me, "can we just be friends?"

Answer: This problem is so common that many men use the acronym LJBF to denote when it occurs. The key issue here is that you are losing your attraction value. This then degrades your sexual status in their minds from lover level to just friend level.

But the good news is that you no longer need to feel as though you are unattractive to the opposite sex. The solution is not utter life-long loneliness. Rather, the solution is to raise her attraction levels by flipping her mental attraction switches. The three universal female attraction switches are:

1. "Pre-selection" - or to demonstrate to her that other women desire you. 2. "The Leader of Men" - or portraying to her that you're a competent man who makes decisions and leads people. 3. "A Nurturer" - showing her that you take care of and think often about the needs of your friends and family.

After turning on these switches, her attraction isn't an option, it's unavoidable. Coming to know how to utilize the attraction switches affords you the comforting feeling of being an attractive man.

Question: How can I be certain that I'll be able to kiss a woman or go even further on a date?

Answer: This challenge boils down to the woman's sense of feeling awkward. Women are very attune to their emotions. If your presence makes them uncomfortable they'll feel that you "aren't meant to be." After this happens you'll NEVER be able to progress on to the physical stages of dating.

Most women if they feel properly comfortable with you and are attracted to you will feel ready to kiss and become physical much sooner than you might expect. The best advice is that if she shows you several signs of interests over the course of a date then she probably wants to kiss you.

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Nov 03 2008

Win Your Ex Back in Only Two Weeks - Make Your Ex Want You Back

by Lisa Dosett

So you want to make your ex want you back? You plan to tell them how much you have improved, the state of your affairs are now completely different, and how much you love them, and how you will be there for them no matter what, am I right? You are ready to make them aware how much you are going to do for them that you have not done before.

So what should you do first? What do you need to change about yourself? Well, maybe nothing. You love them. Is that not enough to make your ex want you back?

Obviously you truly want your ex back, and there are a handful of actions you should take to add to how appealing you are to your ex. Number one is, think and re-discover what it was that caused your ex to become attracted to you in the first place.

Was it what you looked like, do you have a good sense of humor? Are you intelligent, wealthy, pleasant to talk to? If you understand why your ex was first attracted to you, you'll have a good idea how to make your ex want you back.

Here is the next thing you must do, and it is essential. Right after the breakup, do not speak to your ex. This seems like it makes no sense, but there is a critical step.

Stay away for at least two weeks. A month is better. The reason is that both of your emotions is like a bomb waiting to explode. If you really want to get back together with your ex, you do not want to say or do anything that will cause an explosion and ruin your chances.

This is important too: Do not text message your ex for any reason. If you decide to text message them, your thumbs WILL get you into trouble; guaranteed. In fact, you should not even make or receive a phone call from your ex. You are quite wrong if your hoping that the way to make your ex to want them back is to leave 23 voicemails per afternoon.

Also important, watch out for what you say about your ex. If you're always thinking or saying negative things about your ex, you will have a lot less control over your emotions. This is also true about "singing the blues". This will definitely prevent you from keeping your emotions in balance.

Lastly, get busy and do some things that are pleasant and enjoyable. This is the perfect way to end feeling miserable or depressed, and will quickly lift your spirits. That will increase your attractiveness to your ex. These are all simple things you can do, and will put you on track to make your ex want you back.

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