Tips on Becoming the Greatest Father in the World
For as long as the world could remember, kids, especially teenagers, are always ashamed of their parents. It seems as if the old days are gone when you were the most powerful man in the world. My kids used to view me as the best problem-solver, the most intelligent and kindest person. Even my urine used to be gold to them. It's just a bit sad how things have changed as they get older. Now, it seems as if I have become the most boring and corniest individual on the face of the world. I've learned a few tips and tricks, though.
1. Let loose. One of the main reasons why kids rebel or find parents so offensive is because you've never actually let go of the idea that they aren't children anymore. You need to understand that as children mature, they want to fend off and decide for themselves more than they used to. Of course, they still need your help but if you say out loudthings for them, they will feel insecure and hurt. At first it may seem strange that your acts of protection are always taken the opposite way. This is completely normal.
My son used to get mad at me for choosingthe type of tie chains to buy. He feels as if he never really has a decision since I was paying for the things. Give your children more freedom to make choices. Learn how to listen to their opinion, regardless of how senseless you feel these are. Be the wiser man and understand their challenges.
2. Be cool. Learn how to be more open to the alterationsin fashion, the internet and the society in general. It is truly not cool to compare your generation with theirs. Stop mentioning how difficult your experiences were when you were a kid than what they have now. Stop counting their blessings and venting out how you never had these when you were young. You can start by dressing up better. Invest in Batman cufflinks and go out with their mother. It will seem as if you are the more flexible person. Your kids will be prouder of you understand the new trends and fads.
3. Listen. Spend time with your kids, but do so with their permissionand own option. Always give them credit for what they have to say. Learn how to ask them questions that you know the answer to. Ask about their opinion on drugs, premarital sex, teenage pregnancy, alcohol and smoking. Doing this will instill a better attitude toward staying away from vices and other bad habits, instead of telling them outright that they shouldn't get involved.
Give gifts to your kids or compliment them about how they look or their performancein school. Support the things that they love doing, such as watching your son compete in an online gaming tournament or watching your daughter's rock band debut. The kids of today are not very much different from your own time. Always remember that every growing child needs to develop a sense of identity to stay sensibleand normal. Accept the changes and the bad habits will just go away as you give them enough options and time to eliminate.
